Noticing Her Is Erotic
This one is easy, guys.
If you want to create an environment of erotic charge – don’t focus so much on the perfect restaurant, the cliché roses, the horse and carriage.
Those are all nice, yes, but if you REALLY want to create an erotic soup in which she and you will swim – focus on HER.
Notice her earrings. Especially if they match her eyes (or if anything else matches her eyes).
A friend noticed that his cute dentist was hot because her air conditioning was out, so as the novocaine wore off, he went to CVS and bought her two big fans and returned with a cute note.
Um – he didn’t even have to suggest the date. She did!
And when you are online dating – pay attention to those little clues about who she is.
One of my coaching clients told me during one of our Boldness Code Weekends that he met a girl named “BellaStella” on Match.com
I told him, great! Pay attention – bella stella means “beautiful star” – so take her to the highest rooftop restaurant in town because you wanted this beautiful star to be close to all the other beautiful stars.
Cheesy? Said in a leisure suit, yes! But otherwise, it’s romantic and THOUGHTFUL. Because you thought about her, you gave her your attention and your presence and you CREATED something to give her pleasure.
And THAT, my man, is the heart of eros.
Pay attention – and create from her hints and details.
She provides the materials.
You be the artist of her imagination.
And also, before and after.